Solitude

At least in Illinois, we are feeling winter! While the winter blues and SAD are real things that we need to be aware of with the darkness and cold (Understanding and Managing Seasonal Affective Disorder), could there be some solace in solitude?

Solitude is different than loneliness. Solitude is a choice, whereas loneliness is less so. Solitude can give us a chance to recharge our batteries, focus on things that are bothering us, regulate our emotions, and digest our life at a slower pace. It’s a time to connect (or reconnect) with ourselves, be productive without being productive (on the outside), and give us some time for ourselves in our busy, busy lives.

It is important to experience solitude mindfully. That is, to be aware of why we are in solitude and stay present with ourselves. By watching our own internal cues, we can become aware of when we need some solitude. Cues may include: feeling irritable, being extra tired or fatigued, feeling overwhelmed, and regretting plans that you previously made.

If we can be present in ourselves, we can actually decrease stress without the hustle and bustle! We can also enhance creativity, work on problem-solving, increase our emotional resiliency and grit, increase our focus, improve our relationships, and grow as a person.

Want to give it a try? Keep in mind…
- Intentionally schedule it~ you can start small/short!
- Find a peaceful place (consider nature!)
- Minimize distractions (ahem, your phone…)
- You don’t have to just sit there! Try some quieter activities like yoga or meditation

Sources:
https://behavioralscientist.org/solitude-is-a-skill/
https://apn.com/resources/10-benefits-of-spending-time-alone-for-mental-health/
https://www.cnet.com/health/mental/5-benefits-of-solitude-and-why-you-need-it-for-your-
mental-health/